One of the most common client issues I see as NeedAMom is that of daughters with unloving, uncaring, narcissistic or toxic mothers. This came as a surprise to me. I think we all believe that “everyone else” has a great, supportive, understanding, loving mom. For the most part, that’s what we observe with our friends or in the media.
It simply isn’t true.
I often tell my clients “You have an opportunity! You didn’t get the family you wanted but now you get to create the family you need.”
The pain of these clients is real and resonant but it doesn’t have to be crippling or lasting. I agree with Peg Streep, author of Daughter Detox: Recovering from an Unloving Mother and Reclaiming Your Life who writes “What you experienced in childhood need not continue to hold you back in life. What was learned can be unlearned with effort.”
Peg Streep’s books (https://www.amazon.com/Peg-Streep/e/B000AQ3GWS/ref=sr_tc_2_0?qid=1520449170&sr=8-2-ent), her website (http://pegstreep.com/home-two-eyegasm/), blog for Psychology Today (https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/tech-support) and Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/PegStreepauthor) are good places to start.
And if you’d like to work with me, I’m ready to work with you.